Sekitar 2 minggu lalu saya dan teman2 saya sempat adu argumentasi dengan beberapa twitter users yang lain. Awalnya karena saya secara frontal telah menyebut 1 nama sebagai fake account. Ada apa di balik cerita itu, tidak ingin saya ceritakan disini karena personal dan menyangkut adik saya.

Urusan tersebut jadi panjang karena ada salah 1 temannya, Philryan yang tiba2 masuk ke timeline saya, ke dalam conversation antara saya dan toiletcafe. Bukan baru kali itu Philryan nyamber. Bahkan bulan Juni, di waktu saya dan dia belum follow2 an (malah belum pernah dengar/lihat usernamenya sama sekali), dia memenuhi timeline saya dengan tweet yang sama yang dia RT dari toiletcafe (berulangkali meng RT tweet saya yg di RT via toiletcafe). Terkesan (sorry, hate to say this) kurang ajar, meledek, mengecilkan saya karena saya perempuan, dan sok akrab. Padahal saat itu saya sedang ngobrol biasa dgn toiletcafe (screenshot di akhir post).

Perlu diketahui… saya dan toiletcafe pada bulan Juni 2010, ngobrol baik2 saja. Saya sering secara bercanda atau serius “menuduh” dia fake account, cuma direspon senyum atau bercanda lagi. Setelah itu biasanya ngobrol biasa lagi. Tapi nggak tau kenapa, setiap setelah Philryan nyamber… selalu setelah itu jadi ribut akhirnya. Jadi saya emang heran, 4 bulan toiletcafe santai2 aja. Setelah philryan muncul tiba2 kemudian berkata lain pada teman2nya (bahwa saya dan teman2 saya menuduh mereka semua adalah fake), akhirnya terjadi keributan.

Di setiap kejadian pasti ada awalnya, ada alasannya. Di bawah ini ada beberapa screenshots yang membuat saya berpikir bahwa toiletcafe adalah orang yang saya kenal. Orang dari masa lalu adik saya. Orang yang sempat dicari2 adik saya, dan juga saya. Kenapa saya sampe berkesimpulan gitu? Karena dia cukup tau banyak tentang hal2 detail keluarga saya, kebiasaan adik saya, atau apa yang sering diucapkan oleh adik saya kepada orang dari masa lalunya itu, yang hanya diketahui oleh orang2 terdekat mereka. Screenshots ini tidak diedit sama sekali, masih bisa dilihat langsung di page toiletcafe. Pada waktu sering chat dengan saya, toiletcafe ngetweet via UberTwitter.

Ini convo awal2 waktu saya baru saling follow dengan toiletcafe. Sepertinya waktu itu toiletcafe sendiri menebak2 apakah ini account saya atau adik saya, jadi emang sengaja saya isengin untuk bikin bingung, sekaligus pingin tau jawaban2 nya. 

June 24, 2010

Di bawah ini adalah reply saya atas tweetnya yang: “Hmm.. mulai teringat seseorang. Selamat datang kembali!”

Menurut saya, disini ia mulai bertanya2, siapa kah yang sedang tweeting dengannya. Saya atau adik saya?

My sister’s ex boyfriend used to call her “Darla..”. Setelah saya jawab seperti di atas (kalimat yang sering dipake adik saya), tiba2 toiletcafe memanggil saya… darla, dan bilang bahwa saya semakin nyata (mungkin dia tambah yakin dia sedang bicara dengan adik saya).

“Lagi… lagi..” maksudnya dia minta saya untuk terus ngetweet ke dia dengan clue kalimat2 yang sering dikatakan adik saya, atau kalimat yang sering mereka pake berdua saat masih bersama. Mungkin dia mau lebih meyakinkan dirinya lagi. Nanya juga sambil melucu saya tinggal dimana. Saya nggak jawab, karena aktu itu saya yakin dia ex adik saya. Dia tau di kota mana saya tinggal.

Sepertinya dia hafal detail cara menulis adik saya bahkan sampe ke peletakan tanda baca.

Saya nggak jawab karena saya memutuskan untuk terus ngetweet (saat itu reply dia belum masuk ke mentions box). Saya ngetweet copy paste dari tulisan yang pernah dikirim adik saya via email, dan pernah di tweet juga oleh adik saya (twitter accountnya udah deactivated tho).

Ternyata benar dia merasa familiar dengan 2 kalimat di atas. Malah dengan muka sedih (menggunakan icon sad), ia menyuruh saya mengaku. Asumsi saya saat itu, (bahkan sampe saat ini): Saya disuruh mengaku bahwa yang sedang tweeting dengannya adalah adik saya…

Sekali lagi dia tau bahwa tweet itu emang ada (pernah ada tepatnya, karena acc adik saya uda deactivated).

Screenshot ini harusnya di atas, saya letakin di bawah suapaya nggak ganggu convo di atas karena tidak relevan dengan convo di atas. Saya nanyanya secara iseng sebenernya karena saya tertarik follow dia pertama kali justru dari usernamenya (berhubungan dengan masa lalu adik saya maksdunya).

Jawaban saya ini berhubungan dengan masa lalu adik saya 5 tahun lalu waktu masih dengan her ex-bf. Mereka terakhir bertemu 5 tahun yang lalu, di sebuah cafe, duduk di meja kecil pas depan toilet.

Setelah saya menjawab ini toiletcafe langsung diam. Saya tunggu 40 menit ternyata malah “hilang mendadak” aka offline.

Jun 25, 2010

Saya anggap tweet di atas untuk adik saya, jadi saya iseng mereply (pada saat itu saya yakin 100% kami saling kenal)

Tapi sialnya saya, yang masuk ke mentions box saya adalah tweet orang ini, dan berkali2 sampe memenuhi mentions box saya (meretweet berulang2, bukan karena error, dengan kata2 yang dimodifikasi lagi, nggak tau apa maksudnya) padahal saat itu saya dan dia saling nggak follow.

Saya merasa dikurang ajari karena dia berulang kali meretweet. Saya merasa disepelekan karena saya perempuan. Saya marah sekali saat itu, karena saya sedang bicara personal dengan toiletcafe.

August 19, 2010

Seperti yang saya katakan di atas, toiletcafe tidak pernah marah dengan saya. Walaupun saya bilang dia fake sekalipun. August yang lalu aja saya masih mentioned dia, cuma mau tau kabarnya. Dia malah terlihat seneng saya tegur.

Tanpa mengurangi rasa hormat… maaf sekali kalo saya terpaksa bilang, semua keributan awalnya karena Philryan nyamber lagi pembicaraan saya dengan toiletcafe September kemarin (3 weeks ago) ditambah dia menambahi ceritanya ke teman2 nya.

Saya cuma pingin tau…. kalo ada yang membaca screenshots saya, apa tidak akan mempunyai kesimpulan yang sama dengan saya, teman2 saya, bahkan adik saya, bahwa toiletcafe ini sebenarnya mengenal saya? Apakah salah, setelah saya berinteraksi dengannya yang tau begitu banyak tentang hal detail, saya merasa mengenal orang tersebut?

Saya bukan kurang kerjaan. tapi saya ada keperluan yang harus saya urus dengannya (kalo benar itu orang yang saya kenal). Sayangnya teori ini berbalik ketika beberapa twitter users pernah bertemu langsung dengan toiletcafe. Teori saya pun patah. Walaupun dalam hati kecil saya, saya ngerasa dia adalah orang yang saya kenal sejak bertahun2 yang lalu.

“It’s amazing when strangers become friends, but it’s sad when friends become strangers.”

Maaf kalo saya ternyata salah. Tapi menurut saya alasan saya masuk akal karena respon toiletcafe juga seperti mengenal saya, dan sebenarnya ada 1 alasan yang paling kuat yang saya masih mikir untuk dishare disini. Mungkin nanti kalo saya berubah pikiran…

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So many ways to define happiness. Here are some definitions of happiness to inspire you.

Money can’t buy you happiness, but it does bring you a more pleasant form of misery. -Spike Milligan

Finding happiness is like finding yourself. You don’t find happiness, you make happiness. You choose happiness. Self-actualization is a process of discovering who you are, who you want to be and paving the way to happiness by doing what brings YOU the most meaning and contentment to your life over the long run.
This definition of happiness by David Leonhardt, The Happy Guy

True happiness is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.
This definition of happiness by Helen Keller

You will never be happier than you expect. To change your happiness, change your expectation.
This definition of happiness by Bette Davis

Hope is itself a species of happiness, and, perhaps, the chief happiness which this world affords.
This definition of happiness by Samuel Johnson

Happiness is man’s greatest aim in life. Tranquility and rationality are the cornerstones of happiness.
This definition of happiness by Epicurus

Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.
This definition of happiness by Og Mandino

Happiness is contagious…when you reflect happiness, then all others around you catch the happy bug and are happy, too.
This definition of happiness by Jennifer Leese

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. - Mahatma Gandhi

Happiness is an inner state of well being. A state of well being enables you to profit from your highest: thoughts, wisdom, intelligence, common sense, emotions, health, and spiritual values in your life.
This definition of happiness by Lionel Ketchian

Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy.
This definition of happiness by Thich Nhat Hanh

A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.
This definition of happiness by Hugh Downs

Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.
This definition of happiness by Aristotle

There is a French proverb: To live happy, live hidden. Where can Brigitte Bardot hide?
This definition of happiness by Brigitte Bardot

Happiness ain’t a thing in itself—it’s only a contrast with something that ain’t pleasant.
This definition of happiness by Mark Twain

Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half sorrow.
This definition of happiness is a Swedish proverb

Happiness is the only sanction of life; where happiness fails, existence remains a mad and lamentable experiment.
This definition of happiness by George Santayana

I give thanks for the joy and happiness in life and trust that God does indeed want me to be happy.
This definition of happiness by Marty Varnadoe Dow

Happiness comes only from appreciating what you have right now. You can even be happy by appreciating your troubles because they are helping to build your character. -Harriet Meyerson

It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.
This definition of happiness by Agnes Rippler

Happiness is mostly a by-product of doing what makes us feel fulfilled.
This definition of happiness by Dr. Benjamin Spock

Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, And the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared.
This definition of happiness by Buddha

Happiness is the only good. The time to be happy is now. The place to be happy is here. The way to be happy is to make others so.
This definition of happiness by Robert G. Ingersoll

Happiness: An agreeable sensation arising from contemplating the misery of another.
This definition of happiness by Ambrose Bierce

Life can be divided into the horrible and miserable.
This definition of happiness by Woody Allen

There is work that is work and there is play that is play; there is play that is work and work that is play. And in only one of these lie happiness.
This definition of happiness by by Gelett Burgess

There is no cosmetic for beauty like happiness.
This definition of happiness by the Countess of Blessington

Happiness is not merely a life lived by accumulating moments of pleasure. On the contrary, happiness is a long lasting enduring enjoyment of life, it is being in love with living. It is your reward for achieving a good character and personal rational values in life. Some important values are a productive career, romance, friendship and hobbies.
This definition of happiness by Dr. Ellen Kenner.

By all means marry: If you get a good wife, you’ll become happy; if you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.
This definition of happiness by Socrates.

Happiness is not in having or being—it is in the doing.
This definition of happiness by Lillian Watson.

Happiness is living in a state of freely choosing to create and exchange one’s rational values with others. -John Roberts

But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads.
This definition of happiness by Albert Camus

The greatest part of our happiness depends on our dispositions, not our circumstances.
This definition of happiness by Martha Washington.

Happiness is a thing to be practiced, like the violin.
This definition of happiness by John Lubbock

Happiness… is not a destination: it is a manner of traveling. Happiness is not an end in itself. It is a by-product of working, playing, loving and living.
This definition of happiness by Haim Ginott.

Happiness for me is to know that my life has meaning and purpose, and that every day my life touches others in a positive way—whether to make them laugh or learn or both at once!
This definition of happiness by Deanna Mascle

To be truly happy and contented, you must let go of what it means to be happy or content.
This definition of happiness by Confucius

The true way to render ourselves happy is to love our work and find in it our pleasure.
This definition of happiness by Francoise de Motteville

Happiness is something you get as a by-product in the process of making something else.
This definition of happiness by Aldous Huxley

What’s the use of happiness? It can’t buy you money.
This definition of happiness by Henny Youngman

Happiness is when your mind is thinking through your heart.
This definition of happiness by Judi Singleton

Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory.
This definition of happiness by Albert Schweitzer.

Whoever is happy will make others happy, too.
This definition of happiness by Mark Twain

Happiness can be defined, in part at least, as the fruit of the desire and ability to sacrifice what we want now for what we want eventually.
This definition of happiness by Stephen Covey

How do you define happiness?

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